Om vi vill bli bra på att skapa stark kontakt med andra människor kan vi inte samtidigt dölja stora delar av oss själva. Det förklarar Ellen Hendriksen – klinisk psykolog och expert inom socialt beteende, utbildad vid UCLA och Harvard Medical School, samt regelbundet publicerad i The New York Times, The Washington Post och Harvard Business Review – i en artikel på CNBC.com.
Konsten att småprata – Harvardpsykologens verktyg ger ”handtag” i samtalet
Personligt Är du en av dem som tycker att det är utmanande att få konversationen att flyta när det är småprat som krävs? Det finns beprövade strategier – här får du en steg-för-steg-teknik, från en amerikansk psykolog som skrivit en bok om verktyget "samtalsdörrhandtag".

Hur startar man ett lättsamt samtal med andra? En amerikansk psykolog har skrivit en bok om detta. Foto: Stock Adobe
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